Not some image managed version of yourself. And yet it’s just plain honest to also reveal a little bit about your vulnerable side … the part that makes you human. We don’t want to overshare are shadow side. So often on first dates, we want to show our best sides. That will score points on the second and third date and so on. Ask opening questions … How did that make you feel? Was it as interesting/frightening/curious as it sounds? You must have been so thrilled? When you are listening and hearing the chances are you’ll remember what they have said. When you hear someone it means you give them the stage. Most people are listening and responding (thinking of how it relates to them and waiting for a chance to say ‘me too’). You might be listening but are you hearing. Conversely, you need to get your listening skills just right too. Don’t force-feed him the whole menu in one sitting. Be appropriate with what you say, what you share … give him a taste of you. He might not want to know every time you had great sex with some random guy you met at a nightclub. Here’s the clue … always check if your need to say something that matches the listener’s desire to hear it. The Goldilocks Rule … don’t say too much and don’t say too little. How many times have you forgotten someone’s name during sex? Not a good look. But it gives the signal that you see them, hear them and care about them. Of course, you can’t say their name too much … that’s just plain weird. When we use someone’s name when we are talking to them it really tells them that we are present – engaged. Especially when clinking glasses and saying cheers. Don’t give him the stalker stare … but look into his eyes appropriately during conversation. He might walk away thinking that the sex was great but he might not remember anything about you. That’s all well and good but maybe wait a bit before you make lustful choices – even when pleasing him. But you’ve already entered the lust highway here. So the image on this blog is making some cheeky eye contact.
Do the sensory checklist: feel your heartbeat, feel your breath going in and out of your body, what’s the temperature of the room or the elements on your skin (wind, sun, rain, humidity)? What can you hear? What can you see? What can you taste? This little checklist can take less than a minute and really put you in your body as opposed to your racing mind. If you can feel your own senses then the chances are you can be more in tune with his too. Being sober is the best way to facilitate this but if you are gonna have some dutch courage then limit it.
What does that actually mean? It means being aware of your own body. Here are my top ten tips … when you make a booking with me I will demonstrate a lot of this with you or we will talk about it.
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Let’s stay safe and take care of each other. Of course, practise all health and safety guidelines. Here are some tips to keep that connection alive and spontaneous. But as restrictions are lifting more and more people are finding the benefits of having one close partner. Many people are suffering from touch deprivation.